You are excited to bring a kitten home but cannot figure this wild, crazy creature out. She is skittish and standoffish one minute and runs all over you the next.
She can get lost for hours and then show up at a time you are busy and meow pitifully. You wonder if you will ever bond with this puzzling hunk of fur. Here are some ways to bond with your new pet.
For instant bonding, open a can of tuna fish. Dip her front foot lightly into the tuna water or oil and allow her to lick it off. She will be an instant friend for life and will never leave you.
Give Her Space
Cats are secretive and independent animals and they like to hide. They find secret spots and hang out on top of the buffet or bookcase and watch the world go past them. This is not anything against you. It is just a cat acting like a cat.
Get down to her level. Sit on the floor and touch her gently. When she head butts you, she is really saying ‘hey, you are mine.’ The oil glands in front of the ears mark you as her special person. Gently head butt back with your knuckle.
Who needs a massage parlor when they own a cat? All cats massage you. To her, it means you are mom and she is happy, especially if she purrs. Pet her and use your fingertips to massage her.
Stroke and pet her. Most cats like to be scratched behind the ears. Cats love it when you brush them and it can be a special bonding time.
Sing and Talk to Her
Talk to her and say her name. A conversation with a cat can be fun. Meow back at her. Tell her to tell you all about it.
Use that tone of voice that you reserve for animals and children. Call her dear and tell her she is beautiful. She already knows but wants to hear it anyway. Sing a lullaby to calm and soothe her.
Play Games with Her
Some cats love to play fetch. It is good exercise and builds trust and friendship with kitty. Some enjoy splashing and playing with running water. They all enjoy chasing things and stalking their toys.
Animals especially love to chase the little red dot of a laser pointer. It can be a lot of fun to watch, too. Just be careful not to shine it in anyone’s eyes, human or feline.
Make up your own games as you go along.
Establish a Routine
Cats feel more secure when they know what is happening. They like knowing that meals are on a regular schedule and they can depend on it. They expect to be cuddled, played with and brushed on a schedule.
Of course, she knows nothing about vet visits, shot schedules, and the like but they are essential to her good health and safety.
Many Years to Come
When you take the time to get to know your kitten and for her to learn to love and trust you, you will enjoy her friendship and affection for many years to come.